I’m rather fond of that saying. I have no idea where it comes from, and I’m too lazy to find it. There’s a great Flogging Molly song called “The Son Never Shines (On Closed Doors)” about the death of a mother, but I refuse to believe the saying is that new. Since I don’t know the origin of the saying, I also don’t know its context. That leaves me free to misconstrue it in whichever way I see fit. Ah, the sweet bliss of ignorance!
I like to think it’s a warning about opportunities. Yes. That’s right. I said a warning. Opportunity is generally considered a good thing. Sure, you can have the “opportunity” to rob a bank or shoot the sheriff – just don’t shoot the deputy! – but it’s really about chances to do something good. If you sit in the corner or keep your back to the crowd, you’ll never see your chance to have fun. If you’re dismissive, you’ll miss great opportunities. It may be a chance to try something new or you could be missing the best thing that ever happens to you by not being open and accepting.
There’s a theory that your life will be better if you always say “yes.” Zooey Deschanel starred in a movie – okay, it had Jim Carrey in it, too – called Yes Man that took this to an extreme, in which Carrey believes he has to say “yes” to any anything he’s asked, no matter how insane. It leads him on a crazy, but mostly good, journey. Instead of saying yes to everything, it’s better to be slightly selective. That is to say, if you have strong objections to something, say no. However, if you are ambivalent or don’t care one way or the other, say yes. Take the new experience.
I like this theory. It leads to lots of new things. Although some will be better than others, you’ll be out trying new things and meeting new people. It will keep you from getting into ruts or break you out of the ones you are in. It will add spice to life and leave you with great stories. It will also surround you with a sense of mystery and excitement, even for the people who have known you for years. Open the door to new opportunities or things both great and small, because the sun never shines on closed doors.